Some interesting reading came into my hands recently. The topic? The female orgasm. A topic of much discussion – among women and hopefully among men too. Some of you may feel that more men need to be concerned with it. But I’d like to think in our age bracket, men are actually concerned about this area versus when they were in their 20s when all they were concerned about was humping you like a deranged bunny. Anyway I digress….
Apparently 70% of women can’t experience an orgasm during sex and 50% of women aren’t able to achieve orgasm at all. So I polled my girls. Thankfully for them, many can achieve an orgasm during intercourse given the right circumstances. This is good news. But I also know many women who can’t. They either have to fly solo or get some oral/manual assistance to get there. I just love how women share with each other. It’s a wonderful thing, much to the dismay of their partners I’m sure!
So this “reading” is about female orgasms from a section from the 4 Hour Body by Timothy Ferriss. I thought I would share with you a few changes to standard sexual positions that the author recommends to increase the chances of getting his partner to reach orgasm. I mean, really, why wouldn’t I share my new-found knowledge with you?
Ferris makes reference to two suggested changes to make to most sexual positions:
- Changing the angle of penetration so that the head of the penis makes more contact with the female g-spot.
- Changing the pressure so that the man’s pelvic bone is in direct contact with the clitoris.
Missionary: Changing the Angle
So instead of the guy lying right on top of you, his knees are under him (like he’s kneeling). So it’s almost like the woman is resting on his thighs. Some other things for women to try in this position are to pull your knees towards you or place your feet down to elevate your hips. One will feel good, the other won’t. Obviously stop doing what doesn’t feel good.
Missionary: Changing the position slightly
The man changes things up here by shifting his weight up a few inches so he straightens his legs and his knees are off the ground. He supports his weight on the woman’s pelvis and his arms which is the whole point to this position. What this does is changes the angle so that the “rub” is happening against the guy’s pelvic bone on the women’s clitoris. So he can move up and down or in small circles…see what that does for you.
Cowgirl (giddy-up!): Changing the Angle
This is the position where the woman is on top. But instead of the guy lying down or sitting straight up, he is leaning back about 20 degrees. Try using pillows to help. This way the woman can control the motion.
Recommended Reading:
The orgasm section of this guy’s book is an informative, humorous and quick read. Give it a peak. He also highly recommends reading “I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide.” And while you are at it, check out Mary Roach’s TED video: Ten Things You Didn’t Know About Orgasm.
If you already know all this stuff, good for you! I didn’t so I thought I would share. I mean, really, we are all ultimately responsible for our own pleasure right? Does it make any sense to leave it up to someone who can’t remember to change the empty toilet paper roll?
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